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How to *really* know you’re in love
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What happens if a member of the family refuses to change and is happy with the harm he or she is dealing? There is only one thing you can do: There is a Jewish proverb that I love, which sums it up like this: You have the responsibility of making yourself happy and free. Because you matter as an individual, regardless of any relationships you have, be it family, friendship or romantic. Putting distance So in case you are dealing with a family member who is simply unwilling to change take both physical and emotional distance.
What do I mean? Learn, first, to take their damage in a detached manner. Instead take a deep breath and distance yourself emotionally. Accept that even without that relationship you are whole, you are worthy of love and respect. They are their responsibility and you are yours. So decide what is best for you. Realize it only comes down to two possibilities: I keep the relationship and therefore accept the abuse. Or… I choose my peace of mind. Being attuned to how your family and friends might think about your partner or potential partner is a good sign that you are becoming increasingly attached to the person.
You definitely like this person, and this person likes you. Liking is different from love, but is often a prerequisite for falling in love. In many ways, how much you miss a person reflects how interdependent your lives have become. Le and colleagues showed that how much people miss each other tends to correspond with how committed they feel to the relationship. Your sense of self has grown through knowing this person. When people fall in love, their whole sense of self changes. In other words, the you before falling in love is different from the you after falling in love. Maybe you feel the difference, maybe others notice it, but the things you care about, your habits, how you spend you time—and or all of this is subject to the hopefully positive influence of a new romantic partner.
You get jealous—but not suspicious. A certain amount of jealousy is actually healthy, not toxic.